The Vertigo Of Starting From Scratch

Starting from scratch produces vertigo. The nerves swirl in the stomach, in the mind, speed up the heart and even the ground beneath our feet… The fears are many, but the needs give us infinite new opportunities. How many times in our existence have we found ourselves at these starting points so decisive and anguishing at the same time?

The truth is that leaving behind much of what we know to start a new stage is not an easy thing and not everyone finds the courage to do it. However, most of us have thought about this at some point. Hit the reset button so that everything is new, to leave behind what haunts us, to open new doors, breathe new air and be new versions of ourselves.

We like the idea, it’s attractive. However, this process requires psychological strengths and open attitudes, in addition to something decisive: being clear about our current situation so as not to make the same mistakes, to shape a reality more in line with our values ​​and needs.

Commitment to change first requires signing an agreement with ourselves.  Let’s dive a little deeper into this topic.

Starting from scratch: the courage to let go to start over

In more than one moment of our lives, we realize that something is wrong. Sometimes it’s our work, which is very demanding and exhausting, the kind that takes our spirits away when we get up in the morning. Other times it is our relationships, our partner, friends, family… These are dynamics that end up giving us more suffering than happiness, and we feel that it is necessary to make a change and impose a distance.

On the other hand,  it is also common that we need to see ourselves in another scenario, with other landscapes, other people and other occupations. The need for self-renewal, for self-updating, often requires starting from scratch, and this is something we can feel many times throughout our life cycle.

However, as we have rightly pointed out, not all of us dare or find those psychological forces capable of prodding us, of giving us determination when doubts make us tremble. Let us therefore detail what resources we should start developing at these personal stages.

Focusing: remember why you want to do this and what to expect

Focus, mobilize our attention, motivation, thoughts and attitudes in relation to our goal; it is nothing more than promoting this advance to a new stage. To achieve this and overcome the nip of these fears that doubt brings,  we must remember why we want to do this and why we want to start from scratch.

• It is worth clarifying the reasons that drive us to this vital leap :  I want to progress, I want to leave behind the situations that made me unhappy, I hope to grow as a person…
• Also, it’s good to remember what neuroscience tells us about these changes in life. We know that being stuck in stressful or unmotivating circumstances is detrimental to neurological health. Routine and these repetitive behavior patterns make the nervous system not create new neural pathways and end up losing cognitive agility.

Temperance: it’s not starting from scratch, it’s starting from experience

A person who acts with temperance handles fear well. This doesn’t mean you don’t feel it, because starting from scratch causes insecurity and even anguish. However, we must take advantage of this psychological strength that is serenity and inner calm, because, in fact, the starting line is not zero: we start from our previous experience.

What does that mean? It implies, for example, that you know very well what you are willing to achieve and what you will not tolerate again. You know your limits, your heart knows what you’ve left behind and what you’re waiting for: balance, freedom, self-fulfillment, calm and happiness.

So,  defuse those fears, because you will no longer stumble over the same rock. You will pave the way to spread your wings wide.

Self-confidence: I know what I want, I know what I deserve and I’ll get it

People are always looking for balance in life. Therefore, we must understand that if we stay still, we are more likely to end up falling. You need to step forward with one foot in front of the other and looking straight ahead. We must move because existence itself is motion, and we are part of that eternal rhythm and flow.

Starting from scratch is for the brave, but also for those people who know what they want and go for it. Something like this is achieved by combining self-confidence, remembering our potential, those forces that have always helped us. It is also to strengthen self-esteem, motivation and that determination that whispers to us at every moment that the past does not determine the future.

Because the future is created by us. And we do that by getting out of that comfort zone where nothing grows. If there is no stimulus, if there is no love, if what surrounds us does not stimulate our mind or make our heart beat, we must look for other directions. We must look for a new version of ourselves; one who is ready to do her best and build new happiness.