Feeling Distance Is More Than Being Far Away
Sometimes distance is measured in kilometers, and sometimes distance is not a matter of bodily estrangement, but of souls. I can be close and feel you far away, I can be touching you and yet feel that you are not by my side. Distance is the enemy of any relationship, which creates bridges that are increasingly difficult to cross and, above all, steals the desire to cross them. We create these bridges, and so we have the same responsibility in building them as in tearing them down.
It’s not a matter of seeing each other every day, it’s not a matter of needing permanent contact with the other to be close, but the connection and complicity to create the magic of not needing to be close to feel united. The feeling that is a consequence of this, but which can sometimes also be the cause, is longing. But do we really miss the person?
Missing the memories is feeling nostalgia for a part of the path we say. A portion that is now part of us in our mind, but missing people is wanting to stay and not let this journey end. So when we miss someone, we struggle to stay with them.
long-distance relationships
Relationships that are miles apart make it difficult to exchange, regardless of whether they are love, friendship or family. That’s why we have to make an “extra” effort to shorten the path and bring souls closer. The will and passion that arise after a period without seeing each other can be points in favor, making the most of every second that they are together will help to create more bonds and strengthen the union.
Staying away and just having the opportunity to talk, without physical contact, is a challenge for communication and intimacy within relationships, as shown by the study by researcher Crystal Jiang of the University of Hong Kong and Professor Jeffrey Hancock of Cornell University , in the United States. Thus, working the relationships from a distance is a task for each one (which does not mean that those involved have to do it separately). It is necessary to make an effort to make that, even if time passes, the moment you both find each other feel that you have remained together every day, perhaps not physically, but mentally.
Take advantage of the opportunities that appear
It is increasingly normal to meet couples who live apart, families who have had to distance themselves or friends who no longer live in the same city. Letting distance exert its strength and giving up and losing contact is not one of the options we should keep in mind.
It will be necessary to improve communication, taking advantage of all the opportunities we have to shorten kilometers, such as video calls, instant messaging conversations, etc. Technology advances at giant steps, and can become a great ally to feel close even when we are far away.
Confidence in the other will give us the opportunity to remain serene in the face of adversity, and will be a great support for knowing how to wait and appreciate what we count on. The desire to embrace the other after a while, to idealize and want to stay with the person, how beautiful it is to miss when you are away, are things that we sometimes lose in our daily lives and to which distance can open us the eyes.
Let us take advantage of time and proximity and work to bring souls closer each day when distance is the protagonist in our feelings. In addition, it is important to try to define an expiration date for this distance, because you always live better with a concrete expectation.
