You Never Saw Me Naked, You Never Knew About My Dreams
You never saw me naked, you never knew my dreams. My dreams consumed by the passage of time that was waiting thinking that we would meet again. Now I realized that this waiting was time wasted with my mind full of shrews and chimeras. If a person is in love enough, there is nothing that should change, just increase the desire to be together and face the difficulties that prevent it.
Plus, I realize that our idealized intimate encounters were nothing more than the cloud of dust that distracts you from knowing the truth about the person you hug. To undress in front of someone is to show that you are betting until the end, despite the pitfalls and tragedies along the way. Now I realize that my nudity only showed you my availability, but you never realized the surrender behind it.
Undressing is not the same as undressing body and soul
Even being naked, what passes through our minds is true intimacy, which at times remains undaunted and inert, mixed between caresses and passion, an intimacy that is silent because it thinks it can impede the development of passion.
Conversations about the future and what is to be expected are avoided by the fact that “all words are useless when giving a real hug.” However, how to believe in this hug language if for someone it is a moment and for another it is the eternity that wants to be shared? . When two souls are at peace, one should not declare war on silence. It’s good to talk about fears, expectations, feelings.
Because how is it possible to make a relationship develop normally without knowing what happens to the other party’s dreams? His ideas about life, his way of being happy as a person. How to overlook such a strong feeling inside a person?
Undressing in front of another person, when what is kept inside is true intimacy
Anyone surrenders to another without thinking of receiving anything in return, anything beyond what derives from the same quality of intimacy. However, one hopes without asking that after the kisses, hugs and passions, that which exists inside us comes out. Because hiding what you feel is not a free love, but a captive love.
You cannot enjoy romantic love by ignoring the illusions and images that are arising from it. Sometimes it is ignored for fear of being hurt, for a postponement of the unconscious or for the prevention of a misunderstanding commitment, which is not the fulfillment of a sentence, but rather getting rid of it when you really experience what you feel.
We may be willing to wait for the fear to go away, but we can wait and never know what we really are. Maybe that’s the risk you don’t want to take, but if you avoid it, you’ll never know that you could fit into someone else’s dreams, more than your nakedness.
The Zeigarnik Effect of Some Relationships
There is no nostalgia worse than missing what never existed and there is no worse certainty than knowing that something good is lost forever. They say that open endings and unfinished stories are more enchanting, that what is interrupted is always best remembered, “the Zeigarnik effect” that psychology describes in its studies of memory.
However, what applies to memory is neither for desire nor for regret. Interrupting what you want and love is a lament that will never be remembered in a heroic way, but revealing the cowardice that existed at that time. Shut up naked so as not to disturb us, losers of a love that oblivion will drag.
