6 Things We Don’t Have To Justify Ourselves For

It’s true that many of our decisions often generate questions and sometimes doubts from those around us. We will always be with people who have something to say and judge our attitudes  and the way we act in life as right or wrong.

David William, psychologist and blogger, considers, after several social studies, that  we should not and are not obliged to explain  and justify ourselves, although many of us have received an education in which not justifying ourselves can make us feel that we have failed.

We’ll tell you below when you don’t need to justify yourself, even if your beliefs and upbringing say otherwise. Keep in mind that the only person you have to answer to is yourself, no  matter how hard others try to get you to justify yourself.

You don’t have to explain the priorities of your life

Each of us  is unique and unrepeatable.  For this reason, we may find on our existential path people who do not agree with our tastes or attitudes in our own life. You have your own idea and you know what you need to do to live well  and be fair to yourself or the people around you.

We have dreams, goals and desires different from each other. Learning, empathizing and respecting is essential when not judging something as sacred as our vital priorities. You yourself are the ones who decide and have the power to choose.  For this reason, you don’t have to justify yourself to anyone when you do or do not do certain actions.

Don’t ask for forgiveness for what you don’t feel sorry for, what you didn’t do wrong, or what doesn’t move you

You are free to feel your own emotions.  For that reason, if you don’t feel guilty about something that others believe you’ve done, don’t put on a mask that your body will, over time, blame you for it, for ceasing to be yourself. No matter what others think, this is your decision and it will change when you feel the need.

If, in reality, you feel that it is not necessary to ask for forgiveness, why do it? Why are others demanding? Don’t let others tell you how you should feel and what you should do…  Respect yourself and, above all, be true to yourself. 

The time you spend alone is just your thing, you don’t have to explain

It’s true that even though we are mature and emotionally intelligent, it is very difficult to say “no” to many appointments or dates because we don’t want to go to certain events simply because we like to be alone. We are afraid of appearing presumptuous, arrogant, and even antisocial.

But we don’t realize the importance of taking time to ourselves, on many occasions, and allowing this disconnection that offers us silence and relaxation. Wishing to spend time alone with yourself is actually a normal and necessary behavior for healthy emotional well-being in your  daily life.

Don’t worry about explaining the time you spend alone and keep this healthy habit that makes you so good, in just the right measure. You decide what to spend your time with and in what way, the fact that others don’t understand doesn’t make an explanation obligatory.

It is necessary to respect the personal opinion of others, but that does not mean you have to accept it

As I mentioned in the previous points,  having empathy implies respect and acceptance for those who may disagree with your way of thinking.  And the opposite is also true. We human beings share emotions, experiences, experiences and beliefs. Everything that transforms us and makes us “ourselves”.

I invite you to be transparent and not pretend to agree. The  sincerity  is essential to enjoy a healthy relationship: do know, respectfully, do not you think the same, and if you do not want to say why there is no reason to do so.

Nobody has to make you say “yes”

We came into this world with the right to freedom, to feel free to make decisions that we ourselves believe are ideal and healthy for ourselves. And, consequently, to the people we love. It is said that  the most successful people are those who have mastered the art of rejecting what they are not a priority,  or simply do not want to do.

It’s important to say thank you and be grateful, but don’t be afraid to say “no” if you want to.  Respect for yourself is fundamental, and by rejecting something you don’t want, you validate yourself as a unique person and an extraordinary human being. This helps us set our own boundaries and earns us respect.

The path chosen by you, in your life, is sacred. You have no reason to explain this choice to anyone.

A few days ago, in one of my sessions with a client, I proposed to work on the eternal duality of  pleasure versus work . We live in a system that educates us under the rule that work is just responsibility and headaches. That if we work we cannot enjoy or feel alive during the workday. And we choose to think that way because we believe it’s right, or out of fear of what people might say.

But I would like to ask you…  Why do you think so?  If you could choose how to think,   what would you really like to do?  You don’t have to explain to people around you why you chose to dedicate your life to one profession or another.

Doing what you love makes you what you really are, gives you wings to play the best version of yourself.  If you are in doubt, resort to the elegant phrase: “ Don’t be offended, but that’s not your business ”. They have the power to do this or not in their lives; you too.